The day after their formal wedding, Yolisa & Lebo had their traditional wedding. Yolisa comes from a Zulu, & Lebo from a Tswana-background. As in western cultures where the bride take on the husbands’ surname, Yolisa had to take on Lebo’s traditions. During the first part of the morning Yolisa & Lebo’s families were negotiating the terms. Once finalised, there was a praise & worship session followed by some farewells which was very emmotional. Yolisa and her following did their traditional dances in the street before departing for Lebo’s house.
And so be it, …
… once al the good-byes were behind them, it was time to present their gifts to Lebo’s family & wait to see if she will be accepted into their Tswana culture. This was not all smooth sailing as the groom’s family wanted the bride to be dressed in the traditional sotho attire and not the traditional zulu attire. The elders were negotiating for quite some time while the bride and her party tswana traditional wedding attire were waiting patiently in the car. Once everyone was happy that traditional she could present herself, the groom’s mother approached her with a welcome mat as a symbol to proceed into their home.
Yolisa and her following did everything but follow the sotho “crowd” into the house. This was a site to behold as everyone in their cultural attire danced & chanted in front of the groom’s home. The Zulu proceedings carried on up and down the street, with every now and again the Tswana ladies attempting to invite the bride into the house.
After about 3 or 4 attempts and some money being offered, the bride accepted. Yolisa followed them into the house where there was a lengthy process of education by the elder woman from both cultures. Following the orientation, Yolisa & Lebo’s mother when to the back where a goat was being sacrificed & offered for the couple. It was now time for Yolisa to fully accept her new beginning and change into her new Tswana attire. It was only then for the first time that Lebo made his appearance. Two bakkie-loads(small trucks) of gifts were then carried into the grooms parents’ house.
The bridal couple along with newly found mother-in-law moved outside sweeping the floor in front of each other to the big tent next door where the party could officially begin.